Friday, May 7, 2010

Too Many Thoughts



Well, accountability time is here… again. Last Saturday when I weighed in, I gained 2lbs. I didn’t really freak out, because I knew that I had been struggling with the depression and all that, so I knew it was coming. Last night I weighed in, and gained another 3.2lbs. I still didn’t freak out, although I would be lying if I said I was okay with it. Since last Thursday, I have been deep in thought about things, my life, and my goals. Especially after my Weight Watchers meeting, which I spoke about in my last post. So even though I ate a lot of really yummy, tasty, fattening, and cheesy food (hence the 3.2lb gain), I was still engaged in some heavy work in this little brain of mine. The thoughts above are just a few of the things that have been floating around in my brain. You can see it’s a tangled mess.

Last time I did the whole “weight loss” thing, Mike recognized a pattern of mine. I go strong for about 3-4 months, lose about 20-25lbs, and then…. BAM! I hit a wall. It’s a big stupid wall, and I hate it. (Excuse my tantrum!) I don’t know why, or what it is, but I hit that point and can’t seem to get past it. So I finally get frustrated with the yo-yo, and not losing, and just give up. Not this time. Not this year. This dang fat is coming off!

I’ve been spending a lot of time contemplating my past success. I know I blogged about this when I first started my blog, but I have been revisiting it again. If you want to know what I’m talking about, read Past and Now. I really think the reason I had such success at that time in my life, is because one, I was focused more on what God thought, than me. And two, I was focused on serving others a whole lot more than myself. I think the true problem here, I think about me – me –me way too much. As we learn in WW, you need to take time for yourself. You need to care for yourself, before you can care for your others. But there is a fine line between taking care of yourself, and becoming self centered. I feel like I’ve crossed the line.

My good & wise friend, Carrie, left a comment a couple of days ago about focusing on too many things. And she is right, when you focus on too much at once, your effectiveness goes down. However, I kinda feel like I have no choice. There are just too many things that require my attention right now. So for now, I’ll just have to do the best I can. I have three areas that I will be putting as much concentration as I can. Obviously, weight loss. I’ll continue working on my eating habits, on getting exercise everyday during the week, and on changing my thoughts. I’m also going to really start working more on my spiritual goals. I have been slipping on these and feel that they are going to be vital for my success. I MUST focus on my relationship with God. I hope that by doing so, I can adopt his way of thinking about who I am, and let go of the thoughts I have that hold me back. And lastly, I am going to start holding cooking shows again. While this also come down to necessity, I’m really excited about it. I’m one of those weirdo’s that love to sell things and make other people’s lives better. I love to do cooking shows and teach others how to make cooking fun and easy (and healthy of course)! (I’m looking for hostesses, if you’re interested, let me know!! I’ll cook for you and your friends!) So… that’s my plan. I have one more big project I hope to finish up this weekend, and then I’m hoping to be able to get on more of a schedule. That will make it much easier to fit everything that I want to do in, and not to overload myself. Wish me luck!

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5 comments:

Holly said...

I think as long as your brain is still fighting you will ultimately still fight through the wall and through the bad food choices.

I have been thinking a lot about all the many things I want to get involved in. But, then I tell myself that this year is about getting healthier. I believe that until I am living a healthful life and my food addiction is under control I won't be able to live for God that way I was meant to. I believe that focusing on yourself to better yourself temporarily is far better than trying to serve and being held back because physically you can't do it.

So, yes we all have obligations but, it's ok to focus on yourself until you get where you need to where you can help in other areas.

Sorry for the book. I just thought I would share because I have been doing a lot of convincing myself lately that all this hard work and selfishness is key to a better future for you, your family, and your friends, including your church family and community.

Hang in there and eventually that wall will come tumbling down!

Lesia said...

Sam you always amaze me with your words of wisdom. I learn so much from you at the meetings and following your blog. It sounds like you are a fighter and that you have a great handle on your future goals. You go get 'er done!

Razzle Dazzle Berry said...

You know Sam, the biggest part of my weight loss success last year was the fact that I did it with out thinking about it to much. Meaning, when Chris's health became more important then what I weighed I lost all the weight. We had to make changes for him.....medically, even though he was not over weight by any means, I was, it worked for me. Sometimes we do have to redirect our thoughts to other things before the "thing" we want works out.

Keep it up, you'll do it. Life is a journey not a destination my friend.

Quay said...

One thing I have learned in my many years as an old lady.... :D Is you, and by "YOU" I mean your selfish "YOU" comes first...sometimes. And it sounds to me like you have to many plans on your plate and you need to shed a few. (hubby not included) Honey, don't over load, make losing weight your priority and the depression will lift. I promise it will. You'll be taking better care of you and feeling better about you, and taking care of means spend sometime on you. Play with your makeup not that yours is bad) hehe just play around find a new look. Buy some new clothes, jewelry, shoes, a new purse. Something that makes "YOU" look and feel beautiful. And then the rest will fall into place. My therepist use to say...and this gets colorful, but true. "Quay, you cannot breast feed the whole world"!!! It woke me up!! Sam I like you and want to see you make your goal, whatever you decide that goal is. Words from an old person...Love ya honey!! Quay

Higbee said...

IT is all about choices. 1 choice is all you have to make. You can choose to focus on eating or you can focus on exercising. After 4 weeks add another focus. It works. Trust me. But do what you have to do. For me, it works when I use my pea brain to focus on what is important the most. I have exercise down pretty good. now I need to work on my food and getting that tweaked back. Don't get overwhelmed. And more importantly if you are not taking care of yourself emotionally nothing else will matter. Been there and back...